Do you feel lonely? You are not alone. In fact, you may be part of a loneliness epidemic. However, before you panic, let’s distinguish between being lonely and being alone.
Loneliness is defined as a state of being isolated, solitary, or without friendships and companionship. It is far more than being alone, and it is a social condition that is spreading in the United States and other countries like Great Britain. Being alone, on the other hand, gives one the opportunity to rest, recharge, read, or simply enjoy a quiet moment. The ability to be alone and at peace with yourself is a sign you like your own company and you are comfortable with who you are. “Alone time” is healthy.
“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you are lonely with.”
Wayne Dyer
The loneliness epidemic is unhealthy. It leaves people feeling empty and disconnected. Those most affected are afraid to discuss their feelings because other people are so quick to judge. (What if they don’t know how to be a friend? What if they are depressed and can’t be the friend I need them to be for ME?) It is also quite possible to feel lonely in a crowd. This happens when you have little or no real connection to the people around you (even those you may be attending the event with), you are in an uncomfortable social situation, and you aren’t interested in the event you are attending (probably because someone else dragged you along because they wanted to attend but didn’t want to go alone).
Life and work transitions and the significant change that occurs with them may spark what feels like a loneliness epidemic in your life. Obviously, loneliness strikes after the loss of a loved one through death, separation, or divorce. It also makes an appearance when a move is involved and you have to make a whole new network of friends, neighbors, colleagues, and service providers. College freshman, those who move because of marriage or family obligations, and professionals who relocate for work have all felt this. Here is “relocation help for life’s transitions.” I also tell my own story of experiencing loneliness after the excitement of recareering in “My Resilience Story.”
Combat the loneliness epidemic by looking for ways to explore new opportunities and make new friends.
“At some point you have to realize that
some people can stay in your heart but not in your life.”
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