Have you ever wondered how to make a new beginning better? Perhaps you’ve wished for a faster transition from new student to graduate or newly engaged to married, fewer sleepless nights between newborn and 18 (years), more recognition and reward after a job change, or less pain after a death or a divorce. Unfortunately, most new beginnings are slow and subtle although they may appear incredibly fast in hindsight. Everything new has its own transition process.
You can make a new beginning better by realizing the transition process includes a psychological aspect. You are not just entering a new relationship, getting married, having a baby, starting the job you want, sending your youngest child off to college, or retiring, you are facing an emotional adjustment, too.
For example, you may search for the perfect job. After what seems like ages, you get hired by a company with an excellent reputation. You have the skills and the training necessary to perform the tasks you know about (but—no surprise—there are sure to be additions to the list). Your new beginning and its psychological component comes with the learning curve attached to any new job. You have to learn how your employer and/or your boss does things. You must memorize names, titles, responsibilities, and hot buttons to avoid in other staff members. You need to figure out how you fit in the company culture. This is all part of the transition to your new beginning at a new place of employment.
The same is true of starting a new relationship or moving to a new location. No matter how excited you are about your new beginning, you will go through an adjustment period after the start of the relationship or after the move. You will make this new beginning better when you realize this is your emotional transition to this new situation.
Another way you can make a new beginning better is to use these tips.
• Make decisions that reflect your core values
• Choose long-term contentment rather than short-term gratification
• Believe in yourself, your resilience, and your courage
• Seek positive support
• Imagine yourself after your new beginning and “see” your values being lived out
• Create a step-by-step plan to keep you focused on moving forward
• Enjoy the process
• Don’t get stuck in an endless loop of preparation—move on
You can make a new beginning better. I can help with additional tools if you feel stuck.