There are numerous ways you can create a foundation of self-trust and open communication with yourself and your partner that will help you to move forward in your retirement years with more self-assurance. You should recognize that this will be the first time in your adult life that you have the freedom to focus on what you really want to do with the rest of your life. For the first time since you were young, obligations to others are a backdrop and you come first.
This realization begins with how you want to “be” in your life. While we might sometimes want more and mourn the loss, it is a blessing that more and more of your work obligations and family responsibilities have come to a resting place. This change will allow you time to focus on your own personal development. This change takes on more importance and urgency as you no longer have a multitude of external factors driving your every decision on a daily basis.
The longings, ideas, questions and concerns regarding this movement towards retirement occur at several levels: internally which includes the feelings and thoughts about this stage and externally through planning and taking action.
In all of my training, I have learned that doing what you love is the cornerstone of a successful life. It is clear to me that teaching, counseling and life coaching are what I love to do. It really reflects my values, gives me purpose and brings me joy. It requires that I continue to learn, grow and challenge myself. These are important objectives that I know must be a part of my personal retirement plan.
So ask yourself: what is it that you love to do? What will get you up in the morning when you no longer have to be at the office by 8:00 AM? What gets you up now (if you are already retired)? What gives meaning to your life?